College is apparently all about memories. Meeting new people and forming lasting friendships are what make the difficulties almost bearable. Thus, it is all the more difficult to separate this summer. For those who may have returned home, you may be struggling to maintain those friendships. That said, here are some tips for keeping in touch with the friends you’ve recently made.
Contact your friends when you think of them
As the common saying goes, communication is key. Being honest and open is the best way to maintain a relationship – romantic or platonic. If you ever think of something that reminds you of your friend or a memory you had together, tell him. Although you may feel a bit uncomfortable contacting them at first, people still appreciate it. For them, knowing that you are thinking of them shows that you care about them.
Find a hobby you can learn or practice together
During the pandemic where all of my friendships were pretty much forced to go long distance, I had to find hobbies we could do together. My friend and I had a miniature book club, for example. Keeping up to date with our progress from time to time was what kept us in touch. There are also many other activities. Having a similar hobby gives you both a chance to reconnect around something you love. The options are limitless! All it takes is a bit of reinvention and imagination.
Take the time to see them (in person or virtually)
If you have the time and budget during the summer, schedule a time to visit them in their hometown. Or if you’re feeling spontaneous, plan a trip to somewhere fun. For those on a budget, go old school and meet them on Zoom for some screen time. Either way, it’s very important to make sure you spend time with your friends, even during the summer.
Don’t be afraid to reach out to them
Sometimes life gets involved. That’s why forgetting to text a friend is totally valid. However, it is important that the non-contact week does not turn into two. We’ve all been there, after all. While it may be uncomfortable to finally reach out, you’ll feel better once you do. Introverted friends may be too scared to make the first move, which means you have to. Even the most outgoing people will wait until they get a text first. Oh, Gen Z. In most cases, friends will look past the lack of communication and be thrilled to finally make plans.
Make plans for the next school year
Making plans for the fall semester shows that you are making an obvious effort to see each other again. Just say something like “we should check out this new restaurant in August”. This is especially the case for those who have moved out of a dorm or house and will no longer be living with their friends. It’s important to let them know casually that you want to stay in touch.
With busy schedules and the summer apart, it can seem difficult to maintain a relationship. Remember that every relationship takes some work to stay afloat. With these tips, your friendships are sure to last through these tough two months!
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